Having one or
multiple regulars can be every escorts dream, because creating a bond with a
client and converting him into a regular provides the escort with some
financial and personal safety. The logic goes like this: if you have three-four
regulars that visit you once a week or even twice a month you get to cover your
expenses and stress less about your further income.
But there are
also some disadvantages to see a client on a regular basis and there is also a
fine line between dating a client and turning that casual dating into some sort
of friendship.
If you think
that the relationship with a client turned regular will stay exactly the same,
then you are wrong and you must prepare yourself for the inevitable changes
that will occur.
1. The boundaries will be pushed – familiarity, hygiene,
haggling over money
Extreme Familiarity
During the
first dates both you and the client will be on your best behavior, he will be
extra careful not to break the rules set up at the beginning of the encounter
and not to be extremely familiar. But as the dates go by and the client turns
into a regular, he will be prone to act in a familiar manner, feeling that he could
deserve special privileges and extra time.
Masks off
Also, just like
in real dating scenarios, when dating a regular at first he will make an extra
effort to conceal all the negative traits of his personality and of his
behavior. But, as the familiarity grows deeper between the escort and the
client, he may feel like it is time to stop bothering so much about appearances
and he will be tempted to show another side of him – for some the hygiene
becomes no longer a priority, while for others the courtship and polite
behavior is no longer as important.
Bargaining for discounts
Other clients
may request special discounts just because they are regulars, and that is a
major no-no when it comes to respecting the escort-client relationship. The
attempts of bargaining, haggling over prices and asking for discounts may turn
into a frequent behavior of some of the escort’s regulars but the most
important thing is never to give up in front of their demands. Remember that
you are a professional and that you are offering a high quality service for his
money and don’t let yourself be tricked into this kind of low scam.
Meddling in your personal life
A client that
sees you on a daily basis starts to feel like he knows you in a more personal
manner and he may feel justified to meddle in your personal life, to give you
unsolicited advice, to fixate on your life choices and to start acting as a
partner not as a client.
All four types
of behavior are frequent when it comes to regulars and all of them must be
treated the same: cut the connection with that particular client, before he
turns into a nuisance!
2. The client tends to develop an attachment towards you
This is a
problem that can go both ways: the client grows fond of the escort and the
other way around. This thing usually happens because of the amount of time
spent together, the intimacy shared, your constant presence in your client’s
life.
Another trigger
may be the “girlfriend experience” that slowly starts to feel like the real
deal. The dates out to dinner, the discussions, the laughter, the way you start
to know his hot spots, all those can make your client have mixed feelings.
If you feel
like the boundaries of your professional relationship have been broken, try to
back away from your regular and take a break from dating him in order to leave
the spark go away.
3. The dynamic of the encounter might change
Regularly
dating a client might turn out to be just like normal dating. You get to learn
his likes and dislikes, the things that turns him on and the ones that makes
him laugh.
This may lead
to two different situations: in the first case the sexual excitement and
satisfaction may grow because the partners start knowing each other and they
start working as a perfectly oiled machine and in the second case the
excitement may disappear from the same reason…. because the partners start
knowing each other to well and they start acting predictably.
In this case
the best thing is to take some time off, get some space and put some time
between your future dates.
So keep in
mind our advice and even if having a couple of regulars that you get to see in
a daily basis sounds like a perfect idea from a financial point of view, try to
respect your rules, keep the boundaries up and your regulars eager to see you
and always asking for more!