Sensible Information Never to Disclose Online
Before posting anything online ask yourself the following: “could this information be used by someone to identify me, pressure me or scam me?”. If the answer is “yes” or even “maybe”, then don’t post it!
Working as an escort exposes you to a wide variety of people, with different personalities and quirks. That’s why safety is of outmost importance when putting yourself out there. The rule is simple: keep private everything that can be used to identify, locate or manipulate you.
How to stay away from online fraud and scams as an escort
Being extra-careful with your private life is never an exaggeration, especially nowadays when there are so many dangers, online frauds and scammers out there. Keeping your personal life private and away from prying eyes also means being careful not to indirectly disclose information about yourself that can be used by others to harm you.
Try not to have a rigid routine that can be used by others to track or monitor you.
Here we refer to daily activities that happen always at the same time and in a certain order (for example, at 9 AM going for a run in the park; or every day going for lunch at a certain time and place; or always shopping from the same store on the same day of the week).
If you have a certain screening procedure for your clients, do not reveal it in advance, so that others use it to fake their way through your verification process.
Always keep any plan you may have, that does not concern your escorting activity, private. If you are planning to travel to another city or country, do not share your travel plans with others in advance.
What you should NEVER reveal online
When it comes to staying safe online while working as a professional escort, here are the aspects that you should keep private and make sure not to reveal to others, no matter what:
- personal information
- location information
- personal life and relationships
- financial info
- visual clues that can reveal more than you are willing to share
- your weaknesses.
Personal Identity Information
When working as an escort the first thing that you must do is create a work identity that is completely separated from your personal identity: new “stage name”, new email address, new date of birth, a different work number where clients can contact you, different social media, different from your personal accounts.
Create an alter ego, a new persona with her own background and life – treat it as a game, as a chance for you to reinvent yourself. Imagine a different background, education, hobbies and so on, that you will be using when you’re working.
Even the smallest of clues can be pieced together by someone with bad intentions. That’s why you must never use your full legal name, your personal phone number, email, social media account or date of birth.
Location Information
One of the biggest safety risks for an escort is revealing too much information about her location. Never get into too many details about the places that you are visiting, your incall location or your regular routines.
- Never, under any circumstances, reveal your home address!
- Never reveal the name of the building you’re in, your street name, or any other useful information about landmarks or other elements that can give away your location.
- Do not make real-time location updates.
- Do not disclose regular routines such as “you can find me every Sunday, having brunch at X restaurant”.
Personal Life
Any kind of detail regarding your personal life and your relationships can be used to pressure you or even to blackmail you. That is why it is highly important never to disclose:
- Family information – names, jobs, hobbies, photos.
- Your relationship status.
- Any info about your children (if you have any), such as the school they’re in, or their routines.
- Anything about your friends or roomates.
Financial Information
Any financial information, when in the wrong hands, can be used for fraud. So, make sure never to give away your bank account details, your personal payment apps that are tied to your real name, or security answers.
Visual clues
Photos you upload on your social media can reveal more than you think. And when we take into consideration the fact that you are working in a very sensitive and volatile environment, where you get to interact with all sorts of individuals, these photos may be scrutinized in search of any shred of information.
That is why, when you work as an escort, it is important to never upload photos (even on your own, personal social media) that reveal details from your home, photos where there are also captured views from your window, and photos that reveal any unique, intimate feature that you may have – birthmarks, tattoos, piercings and so on.
Weak points
Your weaknesses can be exploited by other to manipulate you, so be extra careful not to show your vulnerabilities online.
- Never let others see if you struggle financially (financial desperation can be used by others to coerce you into accepting all sorts of services);
- Never let others see when you are emotionally vulnerable;
- Never show a lack of boundaries, because where there’s a crack others will exploit it to their benefit.
We end this article just as we started it, by reminding you a very important “mantra” that you should use before posting or revealing anything online: “does this has the potential to be used against me to find me, identify me, pressure me, or scam me?”. Press the upload button only if the answer is a clear “NO”.